Why borderlines cheat

Many therapists share the general stigma that surrounds patients with borderline personality disorder BPD. Some even avoid working with such patients because of the perception that they are difficult to treat.

According to the findings compilated in this review, an epidemiological and phenomenological relationship of BPD syndrome and the psychopathic syndrome can be confirmed. BPD features are highly represented in subjects with psychopathy as well as psychopathic traits are highly prevalent in patients with BPD.

Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Skip to content. Search for:. Home » QA. Add a comment Cancel reply. She would always tell me I had her now because she couldn't go and pick up. She also told me having a child with me meant I got her. Since she got an RO and I have't seen her or my child for almost two years.

She'd say that she was joking about a lot of statements but when you observed her actions for a while, you soon started to realise, anything was possible. There were tons of horrible things that my ex said to me during close moments. She would joke about the other guy who was interested in her that she kept in touch with.

Then other times, contradict and suggest he wasn't interested in her. Half the stuff could have been from conversations with other guys on the net or over the phone. How horrible to even have to piece her craziness together like that. She told me her ex husband was useless in bed and also kept saying that "you know you have got me this way.

She re-seduced one of her fling objects after he dumped her initially, saying they weren't suited to each other.

She re-seduced him to quote, "have the last laugh. Quote from: Sir5r on January 24, , PM. I get the same thing. My BPD had no problem using sex to get what she wanted This woman was very attractive,smart, and college educated My ex cheated on me 2 times and both times she blamed it on me. As if I could make her lay down and spread her legs out for some stranger to park his car in her garage.

Made me want to kick her in the head. Sorry got a little carried away there. God forbid I would have cheated on her because it would most def been my fault and she probably would have cut it off as I slept. Quote from: timebomb on January 26, , PM. She is just stunning. Normally very sexual and she would use that to put her hooks in her victims.

We broke up at one point and she took off with another guy. They got in a fight and she came to see me for like 5 days banging our brains out like old times. She made up with the new guy and that quick she was back banging him again. Quote from: slvr on January 26, , PM. I couldn't sit back and watch that happen. Me and my ex broke up 4 times and 2 of those times the last 2 she moved in with another guy so I can't actually say it was cheating but close enough for me.

The only reason why I let her come see me the last time was because I was horny as hell and I knew what was going to happen. Inspite of me still loving her, I had no intentions of getting back with her or expecting more out of the situation than what is was.

I have know and accepted the fact that we will never be together. What was funny though, she said some things to me that she never said before. She told me she relizes that she blamed me for everything.

She accused me of saying and doing things I never did. She then went on to say That I was the most important person in her life but she has put herself in a situation she cannot get out of. She has been drug free for 4 months and claims she realizes everything she did and feels horrible and still crys to this day. Not sure what that was all about its just odd to see one odd to see one of these people be so vigilant and re-morseful. I dunno, it actually took me off guard and confused the hell out of me.

Until i met my BPD i never really seen anybody as corrupt and downlow as this woman People have not seen true crazy until they have been with a person with BPD. I tried to put myself in her posistion, i tried to think like she did in certain situations and NONE of it made any sense.

Im surprised they know how to put matching clothes on in the morning because they are complete lunatics! Great insight, Thats about what I marked it up as. I was under the impression that since they don't think anything is wrong with what they do, they would not know what they do to harm you, therefore how could they be sorry for something they don't think is wrong. If you know what your doing is wrong and you continue to knowingly do it, why do you blame the other person.

Quote from: avoidatallcost on January 26, , PM. Quote from: Finished on January 26, , PM. I saw my ex regress and progress and regress too many times Even if "in full recovery mode" the answer for me is no Never again Can a pwBPD improve? I'm sure they can Will it ever be emough for me to feel safe and comfortable? Never want this experience again I think thats part of the anger as well just wishing they would one day magically be "normal".

When you realize this person that you at one time loved so dearly will never change Powered by SMF 1. Jekyll and Mr. November 14, , AM. Welcome, Guest. Please Donate. Login to Post. Did your ex cheat on you when you were in the relationship? Pages: [ 1 ] 2 3 All Go Down.

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However, being with someone with BPD doesn't mean your relationship is doomed to fail. Many people have strong relationships with someone who has BPD. Some people have negative associations between BPD and infidelity, but there is currently no research that shows a connection between BPD and an increased likelihood of cheating.

Two of the key features of borderline personality are problems in relationships and problems with impulsive behavior. These symptoms can make potential cheating an even more emotional experience with severe consequences.

People with BPD often have an intense need to feel loved and accepted. When they are feeling abandoned or rejected, they may engage in risky or impulsive behaviors.